Communicating on the network, you can meet a lot of wonderful, interesting people, pleasant interlocutors. But it happens that in response to your statement, someone answers unreasonably harshly, he seems to provoke you into an argument, and you lose your peace of mind.
Instructions
Step 1
Most likely, you have encountered an internet troll. There are enough such people on any forum. Their task is not so much communication as provocation of squabbles and disputes in the process of discussion. Discussion with them quickly takes on negative tones with the transition to personalities, there is not a penny in such a constructive correspondence, but you still find it difficult to stop the meaningless squabble: you so want to give the offender what he deserves and prove that he is wrong.
Step 2
In fact, it's not so much about the troll lurking on the other side of the monitor as about yourself. Having got involved in an argument, struggling to prove his point of view, any person, including you, wants to assert himself. Passion for all sorts of arguments is a disturbing symptom, according to psychologists. He says that a person is not all right with self-esteem.
Step 3
Think about it, look for the roots of the problem outside of Internet communication. Perhaps in real life you do not have an opportunity for self-realization or you have problems communicating with loved ones. It seems to you that they do not appreciate and do not understand you. Discussions on the Internet are an attempt to compensate for insufficient appreciation from others.
Step 4
Another reason forcing a person to get involved in useless arguments is a subconscious desire to punish oneself. Perhaps, deep down, you punish yourself for the fact that in ordinary life you do not find the strength and ability to resist offenses, and also tend to passively wait in a critical situation for the case to be resolved by itself.
Step 5
In any case, you yourself are the main culprit in this unpleasant dispute. In order not to get involved in such conflicts, you must first understand yourself and your internal problems.
Step 6
Until that happens, there is only one way to fight trolls - complete ignorance. If you feel that the discussion is taking the form of a scandal, just step away from the monitor, close the forum tab, or better yet, turn off your computer. Remember, whatever you answer to the troll, this will only lead to a new round of unpleasant conversation.
Step 7
Try to distract yourself, go about your daily activities, just walk down the street. Exercise is good for relieving nervous tension. You can take a shower, imagining in the process how the jets of water wash away all the negative that worries you - water perfectly cleans the energy field.
Step 8
If, nevertheless, it is impossible to get distracted and literally everything inside you is bubbling with indignation, write to the troll everything that you think about him and about his statements. This is best done by hand, on a plain sheet of paper. Do not be shy in expressions, throw out all the negativity that has accumulated in you during the argument. And when you're done, destroy the letter: tear it into small pieces or burn it. Thus, you will receive the psychological relaxation you need.
